Let’s face it. Weddings are pretty emotional. There’s the arrival music, the vows, the readings, the kiss, the rings, and sometimes there’s grooms crying and sometimes there’s brides crying and sometimes everyone is having a bit of a boo hoo hoo. And that’s totally totally fine. If there’s ever a free hall pass to cry, it’s at a wedding.
In my view, I love it when people cry. In fact, I practically demand at least one crier! I’ve had weddings where the couple provided a pack of tissues per guest as they knew there’d be a lot of criers.
As far as the bride and groom are concerned, I would estimate that the crying ratio is 65% grooms, 35% brides. Yes, you read that correctly. More grooms cry than brides. And why is that?
I believe it’s because the brides run through and visualise the ceremony many times in their head, so when it actually happens they’re more prepared. Whereas for many grooms, they haven’t prepared themselves emotionally.
I have no problem with brides or grooms crying. It’s a genuine reaction to a genuine moment, and I always have a spare tissue or two on hand, just in case. All part of the service…
Choosing a celebrant is such a personal choice. When you envisage standing in front of your family and friends to share your vows, you may already have a really clear vision as to what your celebrant looks like and how they sound. However, you may also feel like you have no idea where to even start. Below are five things to consider which may help you whilst you search for the right person.
- Many celebrants will have had other career(s) prior to coming in to celebrancy and asking them what their celebrant and non-celebrant experience is will give an insight into other skill-sets they have. For example, I have worked as a journalist and as a project manager and therefore I have skills which help me write quality ceremonies, whilst also being a very organised person.
- Consider not only what you may need in a celebrant, but what others may need. Do you have a ‘tricky’ parent or relative? Do you have children you want to include in your ceremony? If so, do you feel your celebrant will be able to build a rapport with them and make them feel comfortable?
- Try to find someone who ‘gets’ you. They don’t need to become your new best friend, but it’s great when there’s a rapport built.
- Testimonials are your friend – see what others have said, and if their style of weddings is similar to your style and they rave about their celebrant, then it could be a match.
- Don’t just go for the cheapest. Cheap does not always equal good, and I know I personally charge what I feel I’m worth. I put a lot of effort in to my ceremonies, and this is reflected in my price.
Good luck in your search!