SEVENTEEN: Stand by Me
How many bridesmaids/men, groomsmen/women can you have?
Choosing who to ask to hold this important role can be tricky, and it’s worth reading Wedding Wisdom Day 5 for more about this. However, one thing you may wish to consider before deciding is the ceremonial space.
It may feel like a very practical reason to have a smaller wedding party, but if your vision is to have them standing with you throughout the ceremony, check how much room is actually available for this and can everyone fit comfortably?
A restricted space with lots of bridal party members may result in one or more of them not being able to see or feel part of the ceremony. If this is the case, you may want your bridal party to take a seat once you and your partner are ready to start the ceremony.
Don’t forget when looking at ceremonial spaces that you will also need to fit a signing table too.
EIGHTEEN: What You Must Do!
What you absolutely must do to get married in Australia… Some people think getting married is pretty complicated. Okay, so, yes, the relationship element of it may be, but the legalities of it doesn’t need to be. Below are basically the steps.
1) Lodge a ‘Notice of Intended Marriage’ with your Celebrant 1 to 18 months before your ceremony
2) Sign a ‘Declaration of No Legal Impediment to Marriage’ prior to the ceremony start
3) Ensure you have two witnesses
4) Oh, and a Celebrant (hello!)
5) Your Celebrant will need to state some legal wording
6) You and your partner will need to state a legal declaration
7) You, your witnesses and your celebrant will then sign three certificates
8) Your celebrant will then lodge documents with Births, Deaths and Marriages in the State or Territory where you married.
And that is how you get married in Australia. Easy!
When I conduct a ceremony I tend to stand next to the couple for the majority of the ceremony rather than in between.
This allows your photographer to get intimate shots of the two of you without my head poking out between you.
It also means your guests can see your faces during the ceremony and it gives a more intimate, relaxed feel to the ceremony.
However, if you’d prefer for me to stand in between I can. If I do this though, I will absolutely never ever be in the kiss shot. That’s a moment for only the two of you to share!
TWENTY: Readings Don’t Need to Be Boring!
If you have someone you’d like to involve in the ceremony (parent, grandparent, child, friend etc) you can ask them to do a reading. You may ask them to choose it themselves and keep it a surprise from you.
This could be:
❇️ A song, either sung or with the lyrics spoken
❇️ An excerpt from a film or a book
❇️ Something which involves audience participation like a quiz about the couple
❇️ Advice on what makes a good marriage (a great choice for elderly readers who may have this wisdom)
❇️ A letter or extract from a diary
Giving your reader the option to choose something themselves ensures they feel connected to the reading, plus it’s a lovely surprise for you.
I love this photo of a reader who, after delivering an awesome one, gave the couple and all the bridesmaids a kiss.
Tune in next week for more wedding wisdom tips!