I had a groom ring me the other evening and he was very apologetic about what he referred to as ‘his stupid questions’ (incidentally, and this may surprise some people, at least a third of my initial contact calls are with grooms).
His stupid questions were not stupid. Let’s face it, many of the people I marry have never been married before.
His questions included;
Who should I book first, the celebrant or the venue? Answer: The venue if it’s one which requires booking. If it’s at home or at a venue which doesn’t need to be booked, and you have your heart set on a specific celebrant, then check their availability first.
Who does the paperwork? Answer: The Notice of Intended Marriage is a joint effort (the initial document completed by law to your celebrant), but your celebrant will provide guidance on what you need to fill in when.
Do you decorate the ceremony area? Answer: Sadly, no. I have access to my own supply of lovely things, but they aren’t necessarily your taste in lovely things, so therefore decoration of the ceremony space needs to be arranged by you.
Do you stay for the reception? Answer: No, I don’t. It’s really kind when people ask me and I’m always up for staying for a congratulatory glass of something and a photo with the couple.
Can you help me write my vows? Answer: Yes, I can help. I can’t write them for you, as they are your words, coming from your heart, but I can give guidance and read over them to offer suggestions.
Now, none of the above questions are stupid, are they? I mean, how many times in your life do you get to organise a wedding (maybe once, or even twice, or if you’re Elizabeth Taylor, eight times)? So please, please, please, feel free to ask me anything and never worry that you’re going to sound stupid. You won’t, you’re not, and I’m here to help you navigate a whole new experience.