Below are some frequently asked questions, but feel free to contact me with any further ones you may have.
Q: How can you make my wedding unique?
A: By taking time to get to know you. By listening and asking the right questions. By being genuinely interested in your story, and using my intuition to gain insight in to your personality. By learning about your friends, your family, and your vision for your ceremony. And then by writing and delivering a genuinely individualised ceremony that will hopefully blow you and your guests away.
Q: Will you travel for my wedding?
A: Absolutely! One of the (many) great things about this job is the opportunity to see more of this world. I’m happy to travel, and travel expenses can be negotiated on an individual basis.
Q: You’re registered as ‘Simone Hotten’ but you call yourself ‘Roxy Hotten’. Why?
A: Simone is my birth name but everyone, aside from my immediate family, call me Roxy. I was coined the nickname in about 2000 with a bunch a friends, and it grew from there. If you want the full story of how it came about, you’ll have to buy me a wine first…
Q: You were a celebrant in London. What’s the difference between being a celebrant there and in Australia?
A: There’s a few differences, but fundamentally the ceremony is the same. In England, a celebrant does all but the legal part of the ceremony (that is done by a registrar), and the other main difference is that same sex marriage is legal. Oh, and having an outdoor wedding in England is dicey…
Q: If you lived in England, do you have an English accent?
A: I was born in Tasmania (insert joke here…) but lived in England for 26 years. Consequently I have an accent that people in Australia thinks sounds English and people in England think sounds Australian.
Q: Do you have a PA system that you use?
A: Yes, I do. My husband, Mr HB, is a musician, and therefore I have a top of the range wireless PA system and two mics which I can use. If you like, you can bluetooth music through during the ceremony.
Q: What happens if I meet you for a no-obligation chat, and I don’t want to go ahead?
A: That’s no problem. It’s important to me that you have the right celebrant for you. There’s lots of us out there, so there’s bound to be the right person for you.
When I meet with a couple, I offer to keep their chosen date on hold for five days after our meeting. If I don’t hear from them by then, then I release the date so it is available to other couples. That way you don’t have to do the whole ‘thanks but no thanks’ call if you don’t want to.
Q: There are celebrants who charge less than you. Why?
A: I’ve been a celebrant since 2011 now, and I feel that my years of experience enables me to offer a quality service. There are celebrants who charge more, and there are celebrants who charge less. For me, each wedding takes me a lot of preparation time; writing a ceremony can be a lengthy process and I want to get it right. I often liaise with not only the couple but their readers or family members and I offer that as part of my services. I offer a more basic ceremony package for those who want a less personalised ceremony, and these are set out on my fees page.
Q: Do you conduct same sex ceremonies?
A: Absolutely. I am a believer in that marriage equality is a human right and I actively support this via the Marriage Equality NOW campaign. You can read my blog post about this here. I have conducted weddings for many same sex couples in England.
I can also use language within your ceremony which is inclusive to all guests, which include those who are LGBT+.
I look forward to the day that Australia’s law changes, and believe that it’s long overdue. Until the law changes, I can offer same sex couples a commitment ceremony, and offer this as a very similar service to a legal marriage, only without the legal wording and paperwork.
Q: Do you do elopements?
A: I sure do! It’s becoming a more common request in recent years, and I totally understand why you might want to marry in this way. Please read more about elopements here.
Q: Tell me a bit about you.
A: I enjoy gardening, despite having no idea what I’m doing 95% of the time, and cycling. I used to be a journalist for music and lifestyle magazines in England and still love writing and music. I can’t walk past a dog without saying hello, even if I’m in a hurry. I’m terrified of cane toads.
For 15 years I’ve was a Project Manager working for not-for-profits and Government agencies as well as a celebrant for the past five. I moved to Brisbane in June 2015 with my Battersea Dogs Home rescue dog, Valentine and my husband, Mr HB.
Oh, and I love, love, love socialising and have already gained a fantastic group of friends since moving to Brisbane who make me laugh. My life is good.
PS: If I’m not your cup of tea, but you’d like to find an awesome celebrant, please check out the Awesome Wedding Celebrant Directory.