Surprise Weddings

How it works

Who doesn’t like a surprise?  Well, actually, lots of people I guess, especially if it’s a bad surprise.  But surprise weddings?  I, personally, love ’em!

In Australia you cannot surprise your partner with a wedding, as you both need to give at least one months notice (see ‘Notice of Intended Marriage‘ page for more details about this process).  However, you can surprise your family and friends, and, I can help.

Examples of a Surprise Wedding

The ‘Not Really a 30th Birthday Party’ Surprise

I did one where the bride was celebrating her 30th birthday with a garden party.  I arrived about an hour before the reveal, and mingled with the guests.  The bride and I had come up with a back-story; I was a colleague from work who happened to live only a couple of streets away and therefore she had casually invited me to drop in.  I had hidden my Marriage Register and other paperwork on arrival, and started chatting to the guests, calling upon my High School Speech and Drama skills to the maximum.

When it came to cutting the 30th birthday cake, the bride made a speech as to how important it was to have those she loved most around her, then she took the ’30’ cake topper and replaced it with a ‘Mr and Mrs’ cake topper.  Some guests understood straight away, some were confused.  She then said ‘Roxy can you come and explain what’s going on?’ and with that I stepped up and announced that I didn’t work in marketing with the bride, I was actually a Commonwealth Registered Celebrant, and I was here to marry the birthday girl and her partner.  There was a big roar of laughter and noise, with the bride’s Uncle pointing at me shouting (through tears of laughter) ‘You LIED to me Roxy!  You LIED!!’

Surprise Weddings

The ‘It’s Not Really Just A Party’ Surprise

The couple in this example had recently finished renovating their house, and so were inviting their closest family and friends around to have cocktails in the garden.

My cover-story was that I was a the bar-staff (hired via Airtasker, to explain my slightly inept efforts at cocktail making!).  I served drinks for an hour or so before the reveal was made via one of the brides’ daughter, by which stage I’d served at least one drink to every guest and had them all believing I was the bartender.

The ‘We’ve Invited Your For Our Engagement Party… But It’s Actually Our Wedding’ Surprise

This wedding took place in the evening, where all the guests had been invited to an engagement party.  My cover story was the that I was the Events Manager for the evening, and once all the guests had arrived, I notified the bride who was hiding up in her room in the hotel next door, supposedly ‘stuck in traffic’.

There wasn’t a dry eye in the house when the reveal was made, and the couple loved the element of surprise involved with it all.

Contact Roxy

If you’d like to pull off your own surprise wedding, and need a celebrant who will really go with the plan, then please either email me at or call me on 0478 041227.

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